Personal Stories

Family Perspectives

The effects of a stroke extend far beyond the survivor, touching every member of the family. For instance, my son’s discovery of my condition and his reaction revealed the profound emotional weight placed on loved ones. Family members often struggle to process these changes, particularly when they are used to seeing the survivor as strong and independent. Below, I share stories from family members and friends—some recount their own experiences with serious health events, while others reflect on caring for a loved one or on how a family member’s health crisis affected their lives.

Aunt T’s Story

Aunt T’s story began unexpectedly on the afternoon of September 18, 2022, while she was at home. There were no warning signs or pain—only a sudden inability to move her left leg, which she initially dismissed. Despite these unusual symptoms, she went on with her day, preparing dinner and watching the Bears’ preseason game. Even after experiencing a couple of falls, she attributed them to clumsiness and weak ankles, never suspecting she was having a stroke.

Later, she researched stroke symptoms but found nothing that aligned with what she was experiencing. The following day, Aunt T decided to speak with her granddaughter Morgan, a nursing student. After hearing her account, Morgan immediately took her to South Suburban Hospital. Although they faced a long wait in the emergency room, the seriousness of the situation became clear when Morgan noticed Aunt T’s dangerously high blood pressure on the monitor, prompting urgent medical attention.

Aunt T was admitted to the hospital early on September 20. Morgan remained by her side, and later her son Phillip and grandson Michael arrived to offer support. Throughout the hospital stay, Morgan played a vital role in communicating with medical staff. After discharge, Aunt T faced numerous follow-up appointments with specialists and participated in physical therapy, which became financially challenging over time.

Reflecting on her experience, Aunt T noted the absence of classic stroke symptoms and questioned whether recent COVID-19 infections or vaccination may have contributed. She also made major lifestyle changes, including quitting smoking and soda, and continues to manage her health with the support of her family and faith.

Even three years later, recovery remains an ongoing process, particularly with tasks such as walking and writing. Still, Aunt T expresses deep gratitude for surviving and for the support she received, emphasizing the importance of faith, perseverance, and resilience throughout her journey.

Aunt T’s experience highlights the unpredictable nature of stroke and the critical importance of timely intervention and ongoing support. Even years after the event, adaptation and recovery continue—often requiring faith, perseverance, and practical adjustments.

Imagine what might have happened if her granddaughter hadn’t been there

Tissan’s Story (Son)

After my stroke, I realized my son became withdrawn. By opening up conversations at home, we both learned to express our feelings and grow together. I had to realize that my stroke had an affect on him from the very beginning because he was the one who found me unconscious. and took me to the hospital. He also was the one who had to call everyone in the hospital. While he visited and sat with me during my recovery he was just not use to seeing his father that way.

Mike’s Story (Friend/Caretaker)

As a husband and caregiver, Mike found new meaning in patience and partnership. He shares how joining a support group helped him manage stress and connect with others in similar situations.

Kim’s Story (sister)

Well your stroke impacted me because there still remains things that I would like to say to you. Time I never got to share with your family. More or less it would be that I would like to make positive memories with you and your family. Life is short and we do the best we can and then it's over.


Sean’s Story (brother)
Sean describes the emotional journey following Earvin's stroke, beginning with shock and fear, especially since the family had recently lost their mother. Hearing Roz, Earvin's wife, break down over the phone was deeply distressing, highlighting the widespread impact of the event. Sean reflects on a family history of strokes—Earvin was the fifth relative to experience one—which intensified their anxiety about mortality and the unpredictability of such health crises. Past experiences with strokes in both older and younger relatives led to ongoing fears about whether strokes are inevitable or preventable.

Despite these fears, Sean’s is gracious for Earvin's recovery and admires his efforts to raise awareness for stroke survivors. Earvin's openness and advocacy are seen as valuable for both families and prevention efforts. The story ends with a message of pride and thankfulness for Earvin's resilience and continued progress.

The Broader Context

A stroke is not just a personal health crisis; it is a life-altering event that affects entire networks of care. The immediate aftermath often brings shock, uncertainty, and role changes within families. Emotional and psychological effects, such as grief, anxiety, and depression, are common among both survivors and caregivers. Practical adjustments—modifying homes, managing finances, and coordinating care—are often necessary. 

Support networks, including community resources and counseling, play a vital role in helping families adapt. Open communication and shared experiences foster resilience and growth, enabling families to celebrate progress and navigate setbacks together.